I wonder what my mom looked like? Did she have curly hair… brown eyes? I guess adoption.com states there was a study done that mentions adoptees have a higher chance of having ADHD. So now that’s another question. Did I inherit it, or was it factored by my adoption? Both? I guess if I were to find out then what? Sometimes we’re so focused on the “how” (Freud…) that we forget about the most important part. What can I do with what I have. Can I exchange it? Has anyone asked? No. Because everyone’s worried about something that can’t be controlled.
“Um ma’am… I know you want to give your baby up for adoption, but didn’t you know she will be at higher risk for ADHD”
“Oh.. really? That’s been… it’s a confirmed study? Ok then never mind, I’ll just keep her- shit I never thought of a name….. Umm what day is it?”
We focus so much on the why…. and not “we” like the scientists that could potentially cure it (stem-cell?) but like everyone else.
I was told by a supervisor of mine one time that the more energy you give someone or something, the more it expands. I thought crap… you’re right. I changed that day. By ONE STATEMENT!
THE MORE ENERGY YOU GIVE TO WHATEVER YOU’RE GIVING IT TO… THE MORE IT EXPANDS.
Here’s an example… I am mad(energy) at my husband for doing… well basically everything he does. (Not True-Jess not on her period). Until my energy changes…I’ll just keep getting more mad AND what I’m focused on (the behavior I’m mad at) expands.
Now when I’m frustrated, I think – can/should it be fixed. If not I let it go and move on. And I’m telling you this is THE TRUTH- when I “let it go” I find I don’t bring it up after that…. it-doesn’t expand. It’s a miracle. I’ve done it my whole life obviously but never knew and never used it when I really should have. If you use it, let me know how it works.
You can’t ignore it, that’s not the same. It’s like Marie Kondo-ing you’re life on a daily basis! You need to LET IT GO! Thank the son of a B and set it free.
If you were adopted and have ADHD I guess you’re part of the statistic. But that’s it… find out what executive functions you’re lagging- connect with me and we’ll figure it out.
CLUE 1: If you think you’re great at telling time? Think again.
-Jess
